You know what would be nice......if when you clicked on a feature that has popups enabled the feature was highlighted somehow on the map. Even just a brief flash/halo that disappeared right away. I have a specific case where this would really be helpful!
If you want to do something different than what the provided code does than you will have to learn to program it yourself (all the programming is not always going to be done for you, unless you hire a programmer). Here is a thread where I show someone how to flash a feature graphic on the map: http://forums.arcgis.com/threads/104402-GPS-coordinates-inputing-a-graphic
