I know you wrote this a few months ago, but I just came across it and thought I could provide some help. The best way to deal with disconnected editing is to use a PDA device with windows mobile...not windows phone, android, ios, etc. Not sure what you are using, but at this time ESRI does not support disconnected editing in anything else but windows mobile. It is a shame, as microsoft is doing away with windows mobile, so that leaves us all in a position where we will have to update our program later. But anyway...use windows mobile and do a search for code to find the best route. I wrote a program a few years back, so I know that there is code in the codebase to do this. You may have to search the archived code to find what you are looking for, then update it for arcgis 10.