Thanks for your response Jennifer.
Maybe I'm approaching this wrong. Let me explain the situation and see what your thoughts are.
I have a featurelayer on my map that is showing points. I present the user with a search window that allows them to search for a feature in that layer based on some attributes. I am using a QueryTask to get the features from the server that match those attributes.
I now have a FeatureSet that I'm displaying to the user in a datagrid. I want the user to be be able to click that row, have the map pan/zoom to that feature in the featurelayer that is already turned on, and also programmatically select that feature for the user.
I've tried setting "selected" to true on the graphics that return from the QueryTask, but this doesn't seem to tie back to the graphics in the FeatureLayer already displaying on the map.