Nadir,
OK terminology is going to cause some confusion. As Mattias mention you have to change the HeaderControllerWidget group of objects them. Here is a post where I already answered where the three places you need to change are located then.
http://forums.arcgis.com/threads/34685-Modify-Icon-SIZE-of-Widget-that-is-diaplayed-in-the-Header-Co...
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