I really like ArcGIS Pro, but it is too slow. Even exiting takes MANY minutes, more than 10! If I have a very simple aprx with very few features, all is good. But that is now what ArcGIS is used for. I am running on a DELL XPS 15 7590, intel core i7-9750, 2.6 GHz, 32 GB RAM, 64-bit windows os, ArcGIS Pro 2.8. Shutting down is taking up 48% - 50%of my CPU and 52% of RAM.
I also find that ArcGIS seems to lose 'pointers' to the data. That is, when updating fields by renaming them, or doing calcs on them, the results will not show unless I save AND exit and then reopen the .aprx. This happens with many changes, even with deleting or removing features. I have seen all of these behaviors in every version from 2.4 and up.
All of these behaviors happen in every .aprx (again unless I create a really simple one with hardly any features, etc.). Because of these longstanding problems I break up my projects into many more .aprxs then I wish to or is really reasonable, just trying to work around these issues. I find that I have to close all other apps, such as Excel, to get even a little bit of better performance from ArcGIS.
I know you usually want us to send a sample files but there are MANY posts about the problems with performance of ArcGIS Pro, so I think it is safe to say it is not a function of who and what is being done.
I hope your developers will delve into the guts of the operations and work with real-world (large and complex) examples to research and resolve the overall performance problems with ArcGIS Pro.
Thank you