I was able to to.
I moved the layers into a field geodatabase.
I changed Join_FID to Target_FID as it seems that is the key fields.
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Traceback (most recent call last):
row[1] = ','.join(parcel_dict[row[0]])
KeyError: 1
joinOutput = r"C:\Temp\New File Geodatabase.gdb\sj"
arcpy.analysis.SpatialJoin(buildoutPolygons, buildoutParcels , joinOutput, "JOIN_ONE_TO_MANY", "KEEP_COMMON", '', "HAVE_THEIR_CENTER_IN")
#create a dictionary to hold list of parcels w/ FID of buildoutPolygon features as key
parcel_dict = {}
with arcpy.da.SearchCursor(joinOutput , ['JOIN_FID','PARCEL']) as cursor:
for row in cursor:
parcels = parcel_dict.get(row[0])
if not parcels:
parcels = [row[1]]
else:
parcels.append(row[1])
parcel_dict.update({row[0]:parcels})
print (parcel_dict)
#use this dict to update the buildoutPolygons FC (maybe a good idea to make a copy and update that instead of original?)
with arcpy.da.UpdateCursor(buildoutPolygons,['OBJECTID_1','PARCELS']) as cursor:
for row in cursor:
row[1] = ','.join(parcel_dict[row[0]])
cursor.updateRow(row)